Therapists for New Bern, Oriental, Bayboro, and Pamlico County, NC. at Oriental Counseling Center

 Tele. 252 249 3099

Dr. Bryce Kaye

Author of The Marriage First Aid Kit, a book about marital healing and marriage counseling

Strategic Therapy is Active and Direct

"Strategic therapy" is active and direct unlike other forms of therapy that are passive.  As a therapist, I work with a logical plan on how to help you to achieve your goals.  I believe that you deserve more out of therapy than to just being heard and supported.  Unfortunately, many therapists are very passive in their approach.  My active style is to teach you different strategies to gradually change your emotions and emotionally driven behaviors over time.  That way, you can grow to become the person or the couple that you want to be. 

So that you can better understand my approach, I have placed an incredible amount of useful information on this website.  If you want individual counseling or therapy, read below about the different types that I offer.  If you seek marriage therapy, then open the following Marriage First Aid Kit to help yourselves even before you come to therapy.

The Following are Types of Therapy That I Offer to Residents in the Vicinity of New Bern and Oriental:

    Strategic marriage therapy  (Click Here)

    Adjustment counseling & stress management    (Click Here)

    Healing emotional wounds (trauma resolution)   (Click Here)

    Raising self-esteem and reducing self-defeating shame  (Click Here)

    Anger management & assertiveness training      (Click Here)

If You Want To Help Your Marriage:

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2. Use the following on-line diagnostic tools and see which syndromes apply to your marriage.  Pay particular attention to a) the Emotional Starvation Syndrome, b) the Pursuer - Evader Syndrome and c) the Delinquent Helper Syndrome.  Ask your spouse to read the same and discuss the reading to reach a consensus.
3. Both of you need to read chapters 1 through 4 of the main book below.  It's complex reading but it's the best synopsis of what really goes on in relationships.  You may want to print out these pages to make your reading easier.
4. If your marriage suffers from Emotional Starvation Syndrome, then study chapter 4 in the main book and set up regular weekly "connection" times for you and your spouse.  Use the exercises in chapter 4 to re-ignite emotional intimacy.  If you have problems, then read chapters 5 and 7.
5. If your marriage suffers from Pursuer - Evader Syndrome, then study chapter 8 diligently.  Both you and your spouse will need to practice the "When and Where Rule" and especially the micro-corrections exercise.  The latter exercise has restored passion for many Raleigh and Cary couples by removing covert inhibition.  However, the process requires about 6 weeks of diligent practice.
6. If your marriage suffers from Delinquent Helper Syndrome, then read chapter 10 and go through the procedure for re-negotiating "ownership" of responsibilities to replace "helpership."
7. Read the rest of the main book if you desire to learn about other subtle problems and their solutions.  You can also read the on-line advice given to others about other types of marriage problems.

Chapter 1 - The Great "No No"

The following are some of my articles about intimacy and boundaries:

• The Paradox of Being Human
• Our Most Cherished Myths About Love
• Anger – The Misunderstood Emotion
• Rethinking Intimacy
• The Art of Negotiating for Space
• What About This Business of Falling in Love?
• When Empathy Becomes Codependence; When Disloyalty Becomes Growth
• Beyond Equality
• All in the Name of Honesty
• Letting Go of Harmful Relationships
• Misguided Hope
• When Trust is Not Enough
• Wise Mistakes

Reversing Reciprocal Suppression in the Anterior Cingulate Cortex - A theoretical article about why and how EMDR is effective

Interactive Cognitive Motor Interweaves - Another technical article about a special technique during EMDR treatment for trauma

Background - Dr. Kaye is a psychologist with a license to practice in North Carolina. He obtained his license in 1979 after receiving his masters and doctorate from the University of Illinois with a specialty in personality. He completed his psychological internship at the Phoenix Veterans Administration Hospital in Phoenix, Arizona in 1976. From 1977 through 1983 he was the Director of Outpatient Services for Wake County Alcoholism Treatment Center. While there, he authored and directed a federal research grant that developed the outpatient program. He also researched the effectiveness of treatment and developed the family program as a part of his research grant.

If You’re Interested

    If you want to explore the possibility of selecting me as your therapist, I usually recommend one session and then you can go home and think about it. One session is usually enough time for me to give you feedback about a recommended direction and strategy.  To schedule a meeting time, call me at 252-249-3099.   You can also email me as well but please be advised that emails cannot be considered strictly confidential

09/07/2006

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